Miscommunication. I have been learning a TON about this in many different areas in my life. It’s just better to get rid of it. Ask for prayer when you need prayer, and share the reasons/circumstances if necessary. Ask for help (something God’s been teaching me lots since 2011, I think.) Don’t just talk louder than the other person when you don’t like what they are saying. Tell them you don’t like all that negativity or (insert whatever here), and why.
The miscommunication between my mind and my body is super-duper annoying. Sometimes, I feel that if my body could keep up with my brain, I’d have to be a super-energetic child with no “off” switch. Other times, my body feels like it’s an old lady that should be in a nursing home but is really too stubborn for her own good. When my body keeps up with my brain, it can last like, and hour, tops. The miscommunication is not only the maturity or energy of either body or brain. (I’m told that I have a “childlike” spirit….and yet, an “old soul.” Figure that out.) My body doesn’t tell my brain that it’s getting tired until after the fact. I did physical therapy for, like, a month or two—twice a week! It was awesome. Until we realized that the PT was doing more harm than good. I AM getting stronger, but I’m having a harder time than EVER with the body/brain communication thing. Like last Monday. The air wasn’t on in our house, and when I got up to walk around and do things, I was real weak. Well, looking at the thermostat, it said 78 degrees. In the HOUSE! (Heat is an energy-sucker, too.) So I turned the air on, and chillaxed for a while until I felt I had enough energy to do more chores. Bleh.
I have also been working on the miscommunication that comes with two very different people being married and living together. I don’t always tell Doug when I need help, or would like him to do something FOR me. I would wear myself out until he notices. (But, I AM getting better at telling him when I shouldn’t be doing things—it’s that bodily communication verbalizing and the whole pride thing of asking for help that I’ve been learning since I started this blog.) And now, when Doug notices something needs to be cleaned or laundry needs to be done, he tells me instead of leaving the laundry room door open or setting out the broom (that I would put away because I thought he left it out after using it). See? We’re getting better at that. We’re also getting better at telling each other our expectations of events or the rest of the day. Communication is really cool. I think what has also helped Doug and I be overcoming this stuff so quick is that we were long distance until we got married. And I’m still not afraid to tell him my thoughts.
Doug and I have both (separately) been doing this Bible study through the YouVersion Bible App called “Lord, Hear Our Cry.” It is all about prayer. I have been realizing that there’s a lot of miscommunication on my part when it comes to prayer. It’s okay to ask for things, but don’t get discouraged! Sometimes, when there is no answer, I assume it’s a “no.” Sometimes, that “no” may just be a “not now.” So don’t lose hope when God doesn’t answer us right away! It’s not miscommunication, really. It’s not that we’re not communicating. Maybe it’s because we’re not listening (receiving communication). Or the answer doesn’t come as soon as we want it to. That is our fault. God hasn’t answered me about healing me of MS. Maybe he won’t ever heal me or any of my family members who have also been diagnosed with this icky disease. But it doesn’t mean I’ll stop asking. This is one area that I feel like I know the least about. Why am I writing about it? Probably because God wants to tell me or one of you readers something.
Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. 2 He said: “In a certain town there was a judge who neither feared God nor cared what people thought. 3 And there was a widow in that town who kept coming to him with the plea, ‘Grant me justice against my adversary.’ 4 “For some time he refused. But finally he said to himself, ‘Even though I don’t fear God or care what people think, 5 yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice, so that she won’t eventually come and attack me!’” 6 And the Lord said, “Listen to what the unjust judge says. 7 And will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off? 8 I tell you, he will see that they get justice, and quickly. However, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on the earth?” (Luke 18:1-8, emphasis mine)
Now. Going back to previous topics in this post, don’t be a nagging spouse. But maybe if you tell your spouse something a few times, it’s okay. I feel like my body has been trying to learn the same lesson f-o-r-e-v-e-r. But persistence isn’t bad. Okay, like many of my posts, I have plunged into a topic and have since left it behind. Maybe it’s been too long since I’ve blogged. Maybe I’m having more miscommunication troubles with the world than I even thought. But, maybe not.
Be blessed, everyone!
Anna E. Meyer
Where in your life do you see miscommunication? What can you do about it?